I believe there is a thread about this but I'm have some trouble finding it.
I don't know if a step by step would work as well as there are things that different between Vr's and ABA etc.
Getting a Vr to lay out is a lot easier than getting an aba to lay frame on air.
IMO this is what I would do..
Static- the right coilovers, drop plates, tie-rod flip, ball joint extenders, passenger side frame notch (maybe tierod notch if the car is low enough to need it or if you dont use ball joint extenders and tie-rod flip), rasie the motor, the right wheels and tires.
ABA AIR- airlift or bag yard struts, frame notch, tierod notch, rear motor mount notch, early modded strut mounts, Great plates to center the rear wheels, raise motor if you are going to drive low just incase, the right wheels and tires. (tie-rod flip & ball joint extenders would also work instead of the tie-rod notch.)
VR AIR- airlift or bag yard struts, frame notch, tierod notch, Great plates to center the rear wheels, raise motor, the right wheels and tires.
Like I said that's IMO.
I have had a very low static aba car, a very low static ABU car and I currently have a ABU car on air that lays on its summer wheels. I'm waiting to buy ball joint extenders and a tie-rod flip to take some stress of my control arms.