Not sure about oil temp, but it's usually pretty safe to stomp on it after you've driven around for ~10 minutes -- longer in the winter.
AFAIK, there's no way to check oil temp on Mk4's. If you want that feature, you're stuck installing an aftermarket gauge.
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