I didn't say that. I took his comment to mean a discussion about whether you're looking for a long term relationship or eventually marriage, etc. Definitely not something for the 3rd or 4th date. That can scare off girls who just want to have fun and take things slowly or let it build organically. It brings a logical and objective lens to the relationship too early. Let your attraction for each other be based on emotion and feels for a while, instead of a rational decision. (It may only be a turn on for girls who are well over 30 and hear their biological clocks ticking.)You spend 6 months not knowing if you and a girl are exclusively seeing each other or not?
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It's even premature for talk of exclusivity IMO. Wait at least a couple months or more for that too. Get to know the person, get to know their friends, what they're really like, etc. Give it time. Let the girl bring it up. The "what are we?" talk is like her saying your free trial period is over.
If you're really after something serious and long term, you'll have plenty of time with the person when things get serious. Don't rush it. This also has the added benefit of giving you extra time to keep your options open. Until you decide to be exclusive, keep dating around. You may find another girl you like even better and you'll be thankful you didn't commit too early.